PEOPLE

I had something interesting happen to me this week when I had a chance encounter with someone , that left me thinking. I personally don't believe in happenstance but I believe that everything is working together its either for you good or your demise.

I realised that when we meet people we have the opportunity to, yes of course laugh and judge their situation or be a part of a solution that they may not see.

I know this for sure, we really are all responsible for each other and I don't mean to pay bills etc... but wait a minute when you sponsor a child you are paying a bill. When you add you own advise on a chat room where someone needs help you are being part of the solution to the problem. When you feel for someone when something happens to them, you are sharing in the pain so they are not alone.

When you share your experiences you are helping someone not to fall in the same holes you have .

Thats yours and my contribution to the world and the universe. You know in nature nothing is ever wasted if the tree is alive it provides shelter and fruit if it can, if its leaves fall and decompose they add nutrients to the soil.

We are all meant to work together and really if you think about it look after each other at each junction of life that we meet.

TIME

I woke the other day and was faced with some really simple life long questions that have been asked a million times.

What am I doing with my time ? Most importantly how do I fill up my time, and so as I left my place I simply heard a still voice say the following , Suzgo you know you are never doing to get yesterday back or last night this is how you should portion your day.

And ask yourself these questions:

1. What did you do today to build your spirit man?

2. What did you do to nourish and keep your body healthy?

3. What did you do to stimulate your mind?

4. What did you do for someone else today?

5. What have you learnt about yourself today?

6. How productive where you in your place of work or business?

7. How many time did you laugh today?

Just a thought I figured I should share

Have a great week!

FORGIVENESS IS FOR YOU

I was sitting and chatting to a colleague today and had spent sometime meditating over the weekend about what I wanted to share this week.

We got to talking about people and how sometimes, people are bound by things that they have no control over, but it in turn becomes a blocker of Joy in their lives and the lives of those around them.

I wanted to say this , there may be something in your life that has caused you to be crippled spiritually, emotionally and mentally. It's something that even though you smile and look like you are doing just fine, you are dying inside. It's something that you know is eating at you and you know it but can't let it go.

My question for you is WHY don't you let it go. I had a very traumatic experience some years ago and had someone try and rape me and even though they did not succeed, they left me shaken , confused and crushed. I remember being so bitter because, I told someone who was meant to defend me and they never did a thing, In fact it felt as if i was wrong.

I thank God for all the angels in my life that God has given me , in the form of siblings, friends and colleagues, who encouraged me and reassured me it was not my fault. I smiled but I will never forget how BITTER I felt internally. The more I pretended to be alright the MORE BITTER I felt!

I then read somewhere that 'BITTERNESS IS LIKE DRINKING , POISON AND EXPECTING THE OTHER PERSON TO DIE'. That really hit home for me, and I made the CHOICE to walk on the path of recovery and ALLOW myself to he HAPPY!

I did the following things for myself:

1. I reminded myself of the good things that I have to offer to this world.
2. I reminded myself that even though something happened to try and destroy me that , I could choose how to react.
3. I decided not to live this life BROKEN and not allow my Joy to be stolen.
4. I reminded myself that the Joy of the Lord is my strength.

Ultimately I know that forgiveness is not for the other person , as we think but it is ultimately for YOU, because you get set FREE..

So when you see me smile its not fake it is real.

Stay positive and choose to walk in freedom for your sake and generations to come.

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?

I woke up this morning and asked myself , am i where i want to be in life?. Then something said to me. How about what you have come through so far? , So i took a step back and began to think of the things that I am grateful for and as i noted them down a smile came over my face....

I am not sure if you feel that your life may not be moving at the pace you would have wanted, but I want you to list down the things that you are grateful for and then you will be able to see how far you have come.

My friends here are the things that i am grateful for:

1. I am grateful for the fact that even though my mother has been gone for 10years this coming month, that absence of the body does not mean absence of the spirit. The things she taught me and the spirit in which she taught still carry me through 10years later.

2. I am grateful that even though my father had a stroke 3 weeks ago and I am not able to be there with him, that he knows that I love him very much as I never seize to tell him. I am blessed that I have family who are able to travel and be there with him for me.

3.I am grateful that I am surrounded by some of the nicest most objective friends in the world. People I know that whatever they say to me, is to make me a better person and their words come from a place of love.

4. I am grateful that i am able to walk about freely and think about what I want for my future, which means that I am alive , and that I have hope because, I know that there are people out there whose lives consist of darkness of the mind , and they feel they have no hope but there is always HOPE.

5. I am grateful that I have dreams and I am still pressing towards them and even when I feel like I have not reached them. I still have the choice to try again and keep pressing on because , I know that failure does not mean the end but an opportunity to try again differently!!.

6. I am grateful for the freedom to practice and be unashamed of my religion and not fear persecution.

7. I am grateful for people like YOU who believe in me and allow me to be a part of your lives.

8. I am grateful that I am at peace with who I am as a Woman, Sister, Aunt, Daughter , Human Being , Friend , Mentor and even though.. I have not met my life partner I am at total peace knowing that he will not Complete me but Compliment me as I will him.

9. I am grateful that even though life has thrown me many heartaches, disappointments and betrayals, those are not the things that define me , but have made me stronger , tolerant and compassionate in so many ways , and I have grown as a human being and am still smiling.

10.I am grateful that I am at peace and it is well in my soul.

When you are done with your list stand back and you will be amazed, that you should have been crushed , broken or even dead a long time ago and yet you are still here and that I applaud you for.!

How much do you value yourself

Many times we want validation and affirmation from others. The question is before you ask or seek that from others , what do you think about yourself?

Let me tell you the things that ring truth in my life and many others.

1. Take the time out to understand who you are,, and why you are the way you are.

You can only understand other people better, when you know who you are. The things they say and do will not affect you as much when you are confident , and at peace within yourself and your own soul.

2. List down the things you Like, Love and Dislike about yourself, and make your own life plan for CHANGE in your life.

No-one in this universe knows you as well as you know yourself, so if you are honest and truthful with yourself when you do this.Then you will be able to Love yourself more and work on the areas that need CHANGE , and let go of the unnecessary BAGGAGE holding you back.

3. Make a Conscious , Deliberate decision to surround yourself with people that give you Constructive criticism, Assist you in being a better person and Believe in you and all that you can be.

We cannot change the world but we can control who we allow to influence us and whose voices we hear. So surround yourself with things that make you a better human being.

You owe it to YOURSELF to be ALL that you were made to be, So what are you waiting for!!!!!!