I woke up this morning and asked myself , am i where i want to be in life?. Then something said to me. How about what you have come through so far? , So i took a step back and began to think of the things that I am grateful for and as i noted them down a smile came over my face....
I am not sure if you feel that your life may not be moving at the pace you would have wanted, but I want you to list down the things that you are grateful for and then you will be able to see how far you have come.
My friends here are the things that i am grateful for:
1. I am grateful for the fact that even though my mother has been gone for 10years this coming month, that absence of the body does not mean absence of the spirit. The things she taught me and the spirit in which she taught still carry me through 10years later.
2. I am grateful that even though my father had a stroke 3 weeks ago and I am not able to be there with him, that he knows that I love him very much as I never seize to tell him. I am blessed that I have family who are able to travel and be there with him for me.
3.I am grateful that I am surrounded by some of the nicest most objective friends in the world. People I know that whatever they say to me, is to make me a better person and their words come from a place of love.
4. I am grateful that i am able to walk about freely and think about what I want for my future, which means that I am alive , and that I have hope because, I know that there are people out there whose lives consist of darkness of the mind , and they feel they have no hope but there is always HOPE.
5. I am grateful that I have dreams and I am still pressing towards them and even when I feel like I have not reached them. I still have the choice to try again and keep pressing on because , I know that failure does not mean the end but an opportunity to try again differently!!.
6. I am grateful for the freedom to practice and be unashamed of my religion and not fear persecution.
7. I am grateful for people like YOU who believe in me and allow me to be a part of your lives.
8. I am grateful that I am at peace with who I am as a Woman, Sister, Aunt, Daughter , Human Being , Friend , Mentor and even though.. I have not met my life partner I am at total peace knowing that he will not Complete me but Compliment me as I will him.
9. I am grateful that even though life has thrown me many heartaches, disappointments and betrayals, those are not the things that define me , but have made me stronger , tolerant and compassionate in so many ways , and I have grown as a human being and am still smiling.
10.I am grateful that I am at peace and it is well in my soul.
When you are done with your list stand back and you will be amazed, that you should have been crushed , broken or even dead a long time ago and yet you are still here and that I applaud you for.!
Monday, June 28, 2010
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
How much do you value yourself
Many times we want validation and affirmation from others. The question is before you ask or seek that from others , what do you think about yourself?
Let me tell you the things that ring truth in my life and many others.
1. Take the time out to understand who you are,, and why you are the way you are.
You can only understand other people better, when you know who you are. The things they say and do will not affect you as much when you are confident , and at peace within yourself and your own soul.
2. List down the things you Like, Love and Dislike about yourself, and make your own life plan for CHANGE in your life.
No-one in this universe knows you as well as you know yourself, so if you are honest and truthful with yourself when you do this.Then you will be able to Love yourself more and work on the areas that need CHANGE , and let go of the unnecessary BAGGAGE holding you back.
3. Make a Conscious , Deliberate decision to surround yourself with people that give you Constructive criticism, Assist you in being a better person and Believe in you and all that you can be.
We cannot change the world but we can control who we allow to influence us and whose voices we hear. So surround yourself with things that make you a better human being.
You owe it to YOURSELF to be ALL that you were made to be, So what are you waiting for!!!!!!
Let me tell you the things that ring truth in my life and many others.
1. Take the time out to understand who you are,, and why you are the way you are.
You can only understand other people better, when you know who you are. The things they say and do will not affect you as much when you are confident , and at peace within yourself and your own soul.
2. List down the things you Like, Love and Dislike about yourself, and make your own life plan for CHANGE in your life.
No-one in this universe knows you as well as you know yourself, so if you are honest and truthful with yourself when you do this.Then you will be able to Love yourself more and work on the areas that need CHANGE , and let go of the unnecessary BAGGAGE holding you back.
3. Make a Conscious , Deliberate decision to surround yourself with people that give you Constructive criticism, Assist you in being a better person and Believe in you and all that you can be.
We cannot change the world but we can control who we allow to influence us and whose voices we hear. So surround yourself with things that make you a better human being.
You owe it to YOURSELF to be ALL that you were made to be, So what are you waiting for!!!!!!
Monday, June 21, 2010
Be a Present Father
This last Sunday we had fathers day, this has not always been a popular day and seems to have been introduced recently over the last few years.
Ironic especially when we are a time when we need Leadership, Headship and direction that only a father can bring.
I want the fathers out there to understand this.
Showing love does in no way show weakness , but makes a child understand that being loved is a part of life and it is meant to be a feeling of trust, sanctuary and unconditional giving.
This makes them a better person who understands what love looks like and can run away from abuse and not be an abuser.
Showing a child affection and giving direction and discipline ,makes a child understand that its ok to be held and still get constructive criticism and direction and it comes from a place of love.
This makes them take the knocks of life in their stride , and understand that it's not personal it's about growth.
Showing a child you can cry and say sorry, makes a child realise that you can be sensitive and humble without worrying about judgment.
This makes them know that even when they are weak they can grow and that when they are wrong, the word sorry is not a taboo but a bridge.
Encouraging your child is the best kind of cheer leading that you can give, what you don't realise is that when you are gone , the words and what you did will leave a lasting impression on that little girl or boy.
It will shape who they are and may ultimately alter their destiny and their perception on what final truth in their life is.
We Salute you all who are fathers , who choose to stand up and be counted and choose to shape the future. May you grow in strength and stature.
Ironic especially when we are a time when we need Leadership, Headship and direction that only a father can bring.
I want the fathers out there to understand this.
Showing love does in no way show weakness , but makes a child understand that being loved is a part of life and it is meant to be a feeling of trust, sanctuary and unconditional giving.
This makes them a better person who understands what love looks like and can run away from abuse and not be an abuser.
Showing a child affection and giving direction and discipline ,makes a child understand that its ok to be held and still get constructive criticism and direction and it comes from a place of love.
This makes them take the knocks of life in their stride , and understand that it's not personal it's about growth.
Showing a child you can cry and say sorry, makes a child realise that you can be sensitive and humble without worrying about judgment.
This makes them know that even when they are weak they can grow and that when they are wrong, the word sorry is not a taboo but a bridge.
Encouraging your child is the best kind of cheer leading that you can give, what you don't realise is that when you are gone , the words and what you did will leave a lasting impression on that little girl or boy.
It will shape who they are and may ultimately alter their destiny and their perception on what final truth in their life is.
We Salute you all who are fathers , who choose to stand up and be counted and choose to shape the future. May you grow in strength and stature.
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Do something different today
This is a challenge to you , to just do something different today. It does not have to be the most complicated task but just something small.
The Joy that children find in small things is something that we need to rediscover and not forget that we started off as children.
So stop to look at the sky , Take your shoes off and walk on the grass, Sing a Nursery Rhyme or laugh a little harder .
All i am saying is try and do something different today and you will be surprised at how you will feel. I know because i have tried it and between you and me i laughed really hard.
The Joy that children find in small things is something that we need to rediscover and not forget that we started off as children.
So stop to look at the sky , Take your shoes off and walk on the grass, Sing a Nursery Rhyme or laugh a little harder .
All i am saying is try and do something different today and you will be surprised at how you will feel. I know because i have tried it and between you and me i laughed really hard.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Are you really in pursuit of your own happiness
We are in a time when there are so many things that the world tells us to pursue.The question is have you decided to really look at your life and actively work on YOU.
Look at yourself and where you are at the moment.
1. Look at your life and what small changes you can make.
2. List down the things you want to achieve and start there.
3. Don't worry about what time you have lost start looking at the now because yesterday is gone , today is certain and tomorrow is just a promise away.
4. Really look at what makes you unhappy and start changing those , things because you only get one life.
Look at yourself and where you are at the moment.
1. Look at your life and what small changes you can make.
2. List down the things you want to achieve and start there.
3. Don't worry about what time you have lost start looking at the now because yesterday is gone , today is certain and tomorrow is just a promise away.
4. Really look at what makes you unhappy and start changing those , things because you only get one life.
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