A MOTHERS LOVE

Mothers day means so many things to so many different people. For some its another day to not FORGET to call mom and say happy mothers day. Some people its just another day as they may not know what it means to have the love of a biological mother , for some that may not know their birth mothers its a time to honor the only version of mother they know.

To some like me its a time of remembrance of the person they once called mother, the woman that helped shape who they are and what they have become.

Its a time of mixed emotions , remembering the love and guidance given but also mourning the loss of not being able to, hear her speak, smell her fragrance, call her and tell her what kind of a day you are having, who you fell in love with and who broke your heart.

The loss of not having that advise given when times are dark and friends seem few , especially when there is no one to cheer you on, thats what happens at this time of year.

However this is not meant to depress you because , I relish in all that I was taught and what she shared with me . This is to REMIND you all, not to take things for granted and what these women in your lives represent.

You get one copy of them that will cheer you on, believe in you , pray for you for you, give you advise ,love you , and want you to be the best and have the best that life has to offer. You get one shot to tell them that you love them EVEN when its out of your comfort zone, whats the worst that can happen? Here is a script for you if you are not the articulate type:

Hi Mom

I just wanted you to know that I love you and appreciate everything that you have done for me and all the sacrifices you have made for me known and unknown. I want you to know that I really appreciate you and am proud to call you mom and thank-you for always being there for me.

See that didn't hurt when you read it, so please be that one individual that actually reads this and DOES!!! something so that you never find yourself in that place where you are like if only I had..............

Keep smiling

JUMP OUT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS

The year is coming to an end soon and I was thinking to myself have i done what i set out to do?, well i must be honest I have been able to try and seize the moment and I have been pushed out of my comfort zones many times. I have had some tests along the way , and i realised something really interesting , and that is that i am still here!! . Though there we times i was like what now!, I have made it through so the best thing to do with life is to just GET ON WITH IT!

So lets all take a leap of faith and see what tomorrow brings......

THE POWER OF WORDS

I enjoy listening to people and hearing what they are saying about their lives and their hopes and dreams. I am always aware of what they say and what their reality is, which can be two very different things. So people want to be loved by someone and yet they clearly hate themselves.

At my church we are doing a series on declarations and saying what you are or what you see yourself being, as well as what you need to do to get there. You suddenly get a sense of how people see themselves as well as the power of words.

I was talking to a client and my spirit shattered when she said ' I am not very clever can you explain that to me', because I have begun to really realise the POWER of words especially when they are spoken and released into the atmosphere.

I can only imagine what people say about themselves and if words form your world then we all need help!.

I just want to encourage you to speak positively in all you do and be kind to yourself and others before you say thinks.

I have heard someone says sticks and stones can break my bones , but words can never hurt me thats true, WORDS CAN DESTROY YOU!

So be careful what you say.

WE ARE TAKING OVER

I have been up and about a doing a lot of observing , and I have noticed one thing.
You know when you decide that you are going to do something and then the elements and distractions of the world seem to start closing in.

So you know when you are like, I am going to really put my finances in order, and then BAM! you have unexpected expenses that set you back, or you decide that I am going to be a more tolerant person and kinder too and then BAM! something happens AGAIN to make you loose your faith in human kind and revert back to your stance that evil has a face and you know it!

We are in a world where you are taught that when you speak something it will happen and so we plug in. There are books that will tell you about affirmations but very rarely do we look at what are you meant to do when , you say THIS and then THAT HAPPENS!

I have a secret word for you and its called PERSEVERANCE! come hell and high water. When you decide a thing let it be so in your MIND and may it not change no matter what!

I remember being very excited , when we decided to climb table mountain and when I said I think I can my legs were like are you OUT OF YOUR MIND! and thats when I said, Suz babes we are tired and I really want to turn back but I will press on! and you know what!. I had a bunch of cheer leader around me , Dash, Miss J , Ash,Rob and Van that were like you can do this!!

This taught me something, when I speak or decree a thing in my life that I must DO IT ! and that when it seems like all the elements are against me I must surround myself with people who understand about my life and destiny and this is true in life!.

Whatever you have decided to do in you life, cleaning that room ,losing weight, mending a relationship fence. DO IT! and surround yourself with people and things that encourage you to make it and be the best you, you can be.

Because you were born to TAKE OVER!

YOU ARE A DESTINY CHANGER

The other day I had the pleasure of meeting up with some old work colleagues who had flown into Capetown on business. They are also people, I consider to be very dear friends , we sat down to chat and reminisce of times gone by.

One of my colleagues, I sat with was a man who really dared to dream , in a situation that normally others would have been contend to just let be.

I looked at him and smiled to myself. He used work in the kitchen and when there was an opening on the sales floor , applied for the job. He is older than me but was very willing to learn.

His peers could not believe that he wanted to branch out from his comfort zone when they all came from the same background and as far as they were concerned would die in the same place.

But he had a vision for his life, to cut a long story short. I trained him and he applied himself to everything 200%.

Today as his friends struggle back home , he is a store manager and is travelling and living the life he envisioned and more!.

I am very proud to have been a small part of ensuring that his destiny came to pass, I held just one small piece of his life , and it was my job to do my part , for the canvas of his life , to help form part of his picture. It didn't matter what part weather it was the grass or the corner filler on his canvas of life I had to do my part.

I did my bit even when people around me were like are you sure you want to train him? and as they looked around a tad perplexed and said hmmm good luck!

When I think of his wife and 3 daughters. I smile at the opportunities they now have. When we met, he did not have a wife yet , nor were there children. I was happy to be guest of honor at that lovely wedding when he married this lovely woman.

He says he is always humbled by me and yet it is me who is humbled by his acceptance to allow me to impart the little I knew to help him.

The feeling of knowing that there are a billion people on the planet and I managed to help in the change of one person is something that , I cannot even begin to articulate it really is very humbling and makes me smile.

Whose piece of Destiny do you hold and are you holding onto it as a keep sake or allowing yourself to be used to help someone.

You will surprised that YOU can change an entire GENERATION by empowering someone else.

IT'S IN THE DOING

I just wanted to share this with you so that we are all accountable together. I wrote a Blog GET ON WITH IT! and I said we just need to go out there and do what we need to.

Well I very randomly wrote a poem 9 months ago and saw a competition on the internet, and thought what the hell let me enter besides I love to write.

I got an email last night saying that I am a finalist and that they would like to publish my little poem In a anthology of verse entitled 'Defining Moments'in a volume of the best of African Poetry .

I was like wow is this for real? and so called the institution to make sure that it was not some office in the land of imagination and yea they are legit.

The reason why I am sharing this apart from the fact that I am happy is also so that all you do is just plant a seed of what you want to do, and see what happens you have nothing to loose really except maybe 10 or 20minutes it takes you to :

Pick up the phone to encourage someone
Pick up that book you have been meaning to read
Write something you have always wanted
Learn that something new by at least enquiringly on how you do it

Just a little time thats all and you never know the results..............